Pleasant afternoon

[redbird]

roadnotes came over this afternoon, bearing chocolate cake and carrot cake. We made tea and coffee, and the three of us talked. People, what's going on in our lives, relationships and ways of being in them, the usual sort of stuff.

It was good, as it usually is.

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[dejaspirit.livejournal.com]

[roadnotes came over this afternoon, bearing chocolate cake and carrot cake.

This will always get someone in the door at my house. Glad you had a wonderful time. :P

[redbird]

There are people who wouldn't get in the door with carrot cake, chocolate cake, tea, and cucumber salad.

In fact, one of the things we talked about was past relationship mistakes: mostly deep enough in the past that they aren't too raw.

[dejaspirit.livejournal.com]

You know, I have a hard time holding onto anger. Even when I should, I just can't seem to put the emotional energy into it. This is perhaps why old 'friends' keep coming back into my life, despite the fact that they aren't the healthiest to be around. My ability to turn someone away is little to none...

This is probably a flaw.

[roadnotes.livejournal.com]

It's not the anger you need to hold on to, I think, but perhaps just a more thorough awareness of the value of your time. I was slow to act on it, but when redbird once pointed out that the time I spent with, or brooding over my time with, a certain "friend" was cutting into the time I spent with her, or with friends that made me happier after seeing them, it clarified things.

It's also, much as I think they're excessively wifty in spots, one of the excellent points in Julia Cameron's books on creativity, (The Artist's Way, The Vein of Gold, etc.), and in the unwifty and better book by Dorothea Brande on becoming a writer: you do, actually, have to evaluate your friends, and figure out which ones give you more energy and passion in the right directions. Love and compassion may be infinite, but your time isn't.