Pronouns

[redbird]

I realized a while ago that I wasn't sure of the correct pronouns for some of the people I know here, and I'd like to. So, please comment and tell me what pronouns to use for you. (Note that I'm not screening these comments, in case that's relevant: I know at least one person who uses different pronouns online and in person.)

I'm trying to default to "they" when I don't know people's pronouns, but I may not always realize I don't know.

My pronouns are she/her, and I'm fine with they/them, zie/zir, or Spivak pronouns if you use them for everyone. (ETA, since someone asked: Spivak pronouns are e/em/eir or ey/em/eir: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spivak_pronoun. (I ran across these on a LambdaMOO clone, which is also where I first used redbird as a username.)

Comments

[indywind]

You recently added me (we have friends in common) and I was reading back through your public posts to get to know you and found this, so might as well answer.

I'm fine with any pronouns traditionally used for persons not objects, extra chuffed when someone creative manages to nonchalantly use binary-gendered pronouns in a way the affirms my queerness. Spivak style or the indefinite "they" are good defaults.

(NOT "they" with singular verbs, please -- if you're considering my comfort, "they is" makes me uncomfortable as hell, same as calling a person "it" - though I'm aware there are people who prefer each of those and I do my best to accommodate their preference when I speak of them.)

Like submarine_bells I prefer not to be referred to by gendered group address or categorical terms, with a few idiosyncratic exceptions I don't expect acquaintances to keep track of.