Not a good night

It feels as though I spent most of the night lying flat on my back in bed, awake, with my eyes closed. I am fairly sure this is an exaggeration, and I didn't actually open my eyes to look at the clock. (Part of why I doubt I spent that much time awake is that I never got sufficiently bored or frustrated to get up and read, or even have a glass of milk.) I woke up with a dull pain in my abdomen and the feeling that that, too, had been there a while.

I have taken percocet, and am drinking tea. I may need ibuprofen instead, or in addition. I will likely try to nap this afternoon. The only thing I need do, other than continue to recover from surgery, is go to the post office to pick up a package: Wednesday evening (5/13) I found, lurking in my mailbox, a package slip dated 5/8 (a day when I was home except for a short walk, from which I returned to find the letter carrier at the mailboxes, so it's possible the letter carrier buzzed when he arrived, got no answer, and didn't try again before leaving the building). The slip said "final notice" and that my package, from elisem, will be returned to the sender next Friday. The amount of time from 5/8 to 5/23 is not unreasonable, if the slip was actually in the box all that time; getting a single notice, labeled "final," is annoying.

ETA: The trip to the post office and Greenmarket was basically smooth, though I did take a few minutes to rest on a park bench while cattitude went to the liquor store. And now I am wearing "Of Violets and Electricity," and very glad to have bought them.

Not a good night

It feels as though I spent most of the night lying flat on my back in bed, awake, with my eyes closed. I am fairly sure this is an exaggeration, and I didn't actually open my eyes to look at the clock. (Part of why I doubt I spent that much time awake is that I never got sufficiently bored or frustrated to get up and read, or even have a glass of milk.) I woke up with a dull pain in my abdomen and the feeling that that, too, had been there a while.

I have taken percocet, and am drinking tea. I may need ibuprofen instead, or in addition. I will likely try to nap this afternoon. The only thing I need do, other than continue to recover from surgery, is go to the post office to pick up a package: Wednesday evening (5/13) I found, lurking in my mailbox, a package slip dated 5/8 (a day when I was home except for a short walk, from which I returned to find the letter carrier at the mailboxes, so it's possible the letter carrier buzzed when he arrived, got no answer, and didn't try again before leaving the building). The slip said "final notice" and that my package, from elisem, will be returned to the sender next Friday. The amount of time from 5/8 to 5/23 is not unreasonable, if the slip was actually in the box all that time; getting a single notice, labeled "final," is annoying.

ETA: The trip to the post office and Greenmarket was basically smooth, though I did take a few minutes to rest on a park bench while cattitude went to the liquor store. And now I am wearing "Of Violets and Electricity," and very glad to have bought them.

Annoying e-mail

So, on alt.poly someone asked whether the women on the group had gotten email from the resident misogynist troll, Orlando Fiol, I think with the goal of seeing whether zie could come up with any correlation between those who had heard from him and those who hadn't. His pattern appears to be to send a relatively innocuous email to a woman, then push for more intimate correspondence, and eventually blow up and call the woman in question a bitch when she either says explicitly that she doesn't want to have sex with him, or tells him that she doesn't want to spend as much time on the correspondence as he is asking for. On-group, he behaves as though he believes that poly women will have sex with anyone, and therefore it is discrimination when a woman turns him down. This is one reason why I and many other people, not all female, have him kill-filed.

I posted, saying that I'd gotten one message from him, asking an innocuous question, and that I had not answered the email, but posted the information to the newsgroup, because I didn't want to correspond with Orlando, but am generally happy to talk about chocolate. That got me an almost immediate emailed response, demanding to know what my beef with him is, given that he has not come on to me or devalued my intellect. He actually asked "Why am I apparently unworthy of corresponding with you?" This fits his pattern: someone who doesn't want to be his friend, for whatever reason, is accused of thinking s/he's better than he is. (If I offered someone friendship, and was turned down in a way that felt condescending, I would not be inclined to pursue them, because I'd expect that even if I could convince them to spend time with me, they would continue to be rude and condescending.)

I have followed up to myself on alt.poly, explaining why I do not want to correspond with him, and telling him that I will consider any further email from him as harassment. I don't know whether this will make any difference; he has a history of ignoring "do not send me email" requests, demanding to know why he shouldn't send email, and claiming that his right to an explanation trumps other people's right to be left alone.

My post (minus headers and the quoted previous post) says

OK: For the record. My beef with Mr. Fiol is that he has harassed many of my friends, and that he is either incapable of, or unwilling to, consider women as independent people who have desires and agendas that may not fit his. I do not choose to correspond with people, of any gender, who harass my friends. I do not choose to correspond with people who behave as though they have the right to sex with someone, regardless of that person's desires.

Orlando, I know you're reading this. Do not email me again. If you do, I will consider it harassment, and will contact your ISP.

[I had thought about posting this friends-locked so I didn't need to worry about copyright issues, and quoting his entire email, but it is more important to me to make this public, and name the idiots (for those of my friends who aren't on alt.poly), so I've paraphrased instead.]

Annoying e-mail

So, on alt.poly someone asked whether the women on the group had gotten email from the resident misogynist troll, Orlando Fiol, I think with the goal of seeing whether zie could come up with any correlation between those who had heard from him and those who hadn't. His pattern appears to be to send a relatively innocuous email to a woman, then push for more intimate correspondence, and eventually blow up and call the woman in question a bitch when she either says explicitly that she doesn't want to have sex with him, or tells him that she doesn't want to spend as much time on the correspondence as he is asking for. On-group, he behaves as though he believes that poly women will have sex with anyone, and therefore it is discrimination when a woman turns him down. This is one reason why I and many other people, not all female, have him kill-filed.

I posted, saying that I'd gotten one message from him, asking an innocuous question, and that I had not answered the email, but posted the information to the newsgroup, because I didn't want to correspond with Orlando, but am generally happy to talk about chocolate. That got me an almost immediate emailed response, demanding to know what my beef with him is, given that he has not come on to me or devalued my intellect. He actually asked "Why am I apparently unworthy of corresponding with you?" This fits his pattern: someone who doesn't want to be his friend, for whatever reason, is accused of thinking s/he's better than he is. (If I offered someone friendship, and was turned down in a way that felt condescending, I would not be inclined to pursue them, because I'd expect that even if I could convince them to spend time with me, they would continue to be rude and condescending.)

I have followed up to myself on alt.poly, explaining why I do not want to correspond with him, and telling him that I will consider any further email from him as harassment. I don't know whether this will make any difference; he has a history of ignoring "do not send me email" requests, demanding to know why he shouldn't send email, and claiming that his right to an explanation trumps other people's right to be left alone.

My post (minus headers and the quoted previous post) says

OK: For the record. My beef with Mr. Fiol is that he has harassed many of my friends, and that he is either incapable of, or unwilling to, consider women as independent people who have desires and agendas that may not fit his. I do not choose to correspond with people, of any gender, who harass my friends. I do not choose to correspond with people who behave as though they have the right to sex with someone, regardless of that person's desires.

Orlando, I know you're reading this. Do not email me again. If you do, I will consider it harassment, and will contact your ISP.

[I had thought about posting this friends-locked so I didn't need to worry about copyright issues, and quoting his entire email, but it is more important to me to make this public, and name the idiots (for those of my friends who aren't on alt.poly), so I've paraphrased instead.]