Mom

I just called my Mom, to catch her before she went to bed (she's getting up at 5 a.m., London time, tomorrow) and discuss plans. She wants to see the project-in-progress. The medieval stuff isn't ready to show anyone, but I've offered her the Bronze Age, and she said yes, adding "I want to see anything my daughter writes. I'm serious. Anything you're prepared to show."

This feels weird, but I have a printer, I can do this. Minoan Crete and the Indus Valley coming up.

Mom

I just called my Mom, to catch her before she went to bed (she's getting up at 5 a.m., London time, tomorrow) and discuss plans. She wants to see the project-in-progress. The medieval stuff isn't ready to show anyone, but I've offered her the Bronze Age, and she said yes, adding "I want to see anything my daughter writes. I'm serious. Anything you're prepared to show."

This feels weird, but I have a printer, I can do this. Minoan Crete and the Indus Valley coming up.

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I didn't ask for it, I didn't want it, and I'm not going to pay the postage expenses. Yes, I could have sent an email pointing this out--but she could have sent me one saying that if I wanted any more issues, I should send postage money.

Yes, if you're running things now, you can change the rules so people aren't dropped from the membership roster for inactivity. But if someone ignores you repeatedly, it's a good bet that they aren't interested anymore. The appropriate letter to send to someone who did all the gruntwork for years, and is no longer interested, isn't an attempt at a guilt trip and a bill for slightly under five dollars.

CLARIFICATION: This is not about the Turbo APA.

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I didn't ask for it, I didn't want it, and I'm not going to pay the postage expenses. Yes, I could have sent an email pointing this out--but she could have sent me one saying that if I wanted any more issues, I should send postage money.

Yes, if you're running things now, you can change the rules so people aren't dropped from the membership roster for inactivity. But if someone ignores you repeatedly, it's a good bet that they aren't interested anymore. The appropriate letter to send to someone who did all the gruntwork for years, and is no longer interested, isn't an attempt at a guilt trip and a bill for slightly under five dollars.

CLARIFICATION: This is not about the Turbo APA.

for the record, and one irrelevant aside

This is the email I sent to the OE of AWA (if you don't know what that means, ask, or don't worry about it; the "Ellie" mentioned here is not either of the Ellies on my LJ friends list):

Dear Ellie,

No.

The apa is not a negative-response book club. If email was called for, it was you who should have emailed me, before spending money to send me something that you had no evidence I wanted. Courtesy goes both ways. If you want to spend your money, that is your business. If you want me to spend mine, it is on you to send an email asking me to do so, and not to take the lack of contact as permission to spend someone else's funds.

The arrears, and the responsibility, are yours, just as I paid the bills when I sent unasked-for extra copies to women I hoped to lure back when I was OE.

Sincerely yours,
Vicki

Meanwhile, while making hot chocolate, it occurred to me that it would probably be unwise to ask the next door neighbors to turn their stereo up. Their next choice might not be something I wanted to sing along to.

for the record, and one irrelevant aside

This is the email I sent to the OE of AWA (if you don't know what that means, ask, or don't worry about it; the "Ellie" mentioned here is not either of the Ellies on my LJ friends list):

Dear Ellie,

No.

The apa is not a negative-response book club. If email was called for, it was you who should have emailed me, before spending money to send me something that you had no evidence I wanted. Courtesy goes both ways. If you want to spend your money, that is your business. If you want me to spend mine, it is on you to send an email asking me to do so, and not to take the lack of contact as permission to spend someone else's funds.

The arrears, and the responsibility, are yours, just as I paid the bills when I sent unasked-for extra copies to women I hoped to lure back when I was OE.

Sincerely yours,
Vicki

Meanwhile, while making hot chocolate, it occurred to me that it would probably be unwise to ask the next door neighbors to turn their stereo up. Their next choice might not be something I wanted to sing along to.