for the record, or something

[redbird]

Since it's National Coming Out Day:

For the three of you who don't know already [1], yes, I'm bisexual. To a first approximation--none of the terms quite seem to fit, since I'm not convinced that gender-of-the-other-person is the most important aspect of what I'm sorting on. Yes, in some sense bi means not sorting for gender--but I do seem to do some of that kind of sorting. That dial is set somewhere between a Kinsey 5 and 6--which means I'm attracted mostly to women--but there's an override, or a Venn diagram, or something, which is something like "attracted to intellectuals" crossed with "tend to fall in love with my friends".

So, that's something resembling a clarification [2]

[1] Since there seem to be people reading this who don't know me in other contexts, and maybe even one or two with whom the matter never came up. [3]

[2] "The more chaotic the clarification, the better" (as a James Thurber villain put it)

[3] To cross-thread mercilessly, bi poly geek sf fan four-eyed gym rat [4], or something.

[4] Except I've only made it to the gym once this week.

Comments

[catamorphism.livejournal.com]

"attracted to intellectuals" crossed with "tend to fall in love with my friends".

Um, wow. And I thought I was the only one who had this problem.

[elisem.livejournal.com]

I have it too, but I never thought it was a problem. It's kinda nice, actually.

[catamorphism.livejournal.com]

Well, the "attracted to intellectuals" part isn't so much of a problem. Except when you're married (and monogamous) and then you go to conferences full of unattached geeks. The "falling in love with friends" part has sometimes been a problem, though, at least for me. Since none of my friends seem to have had the problem of falling in love with me.

[cattitude.livejournal.com]

Well, it works for me.

[rysmiel.livejournal.com]

Agreed - in fact, I'm not at all sure I grok the idea of falling for someone other than a friend.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

Guess I'm one of the three ;)

But do people who don't actually think it important who you're attracted to and like you for who you are count?

[redbird]

Depends what we're counting, I guess.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

Right now I'm counting guitar picks and wondering why I have so many 0.38 mm and 0.60 mm, but I can't find a single .50 mm

And the number of days 'til this cast comes off my leg.

[wandra.livejournal.com]

That dial is set somewhere between a Kinsey 5 and 6--which means I'm attracted mostly to women--but there's an override, or a Venn diagram, or something, which is something like "attracted to intellectuals" crossed with "tend to fall in love with my friends".

Oh yes. I like this way of putting it. This is quite close to how I'd describe myself, too.

[2] "The more chaotic the clarification, the better" (as a James Thurber villain put it)

*grin*
I like this too :-)

[purpletigron.livejournal.com]

To a first approximation...Yes, in some sense bi means not sorting for gender--but I do seem to do some of that kind of sorting. ... there's an override, or a Venn diagram, or something, which is something like "attracted to intellectuals" crossed with "tend to fall in love with my friends".

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......... T-shirts!!! (except, preferentially toward men).

Intellectualosexual... Philiosexual... (these words confound the LJ spell-checker, in that it accepts them without comment!)

That is to say, I have a marked tendency become friends with and to fall for certain mental types, which is my primary `sexuality', but my `physical' detectors ping! much more strongly for men.

(I'm sure we don't have a coming out day in my location, and I'm even late for yours, but hey.)