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Our downstairs neighbors periodically play music loud enough to be heard, thump-thump-thump through our floor. (This is a pre-War building, meaning thick walls and floors.) In the past, when I've gone downstairs and asked him to turn it down, he has (after turning the music down when he heard the doorbell, so he'd be able to talk to the person at the door) left it turned low.
Today, someone else answered the door, after I leaned on the bell repeatedly. She did not look happy, but the music was turned down. A couple of minutes later, the man came upstairs and rang my bell. He complained about my complaining--his basic point apparently is that it's acceptable to play extremely loud music on a holiday afternoon--and said we sometimes "thump around" after 11 and they never complain. (Of course, if they never complain, how am I to know there's a problem?) He also asserted that nobody else has complained, which as![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
cattitude pointed out may be because nobody else is right above them, and accused me of having said I was speaking for the entire building. I told him I had never done so, and unfortunately did not think in time to say "that must have been someone else."
And then he went downstairs and turned the stereo back up. I had a headache before this started (colds will do that), but suspect that he is legally in the right in that the noise in here doesn't reach levels relevant to a legal complaint, and there's no law saying "don't be a schmuck." Also,adrian_turtle has noted that we don't actually want to get into a "who can be more obnoxious" contest. But I am not happy, and I am certainly not about to make efforts to be quieter for someone who didn't think "please don't stomp around at night, we're trying to sleep" was worth asking for itself and who is playing music to make a point of "So there!"
Addendum: it has stopped. I mentioned my hypothesis that the guy downstairs was trying to impress his female friend/companion/visitor, and Adrian said that the woman was likely to be smarter than for that to work. She mentioned the standard advice that if someone you're dating is nice to you but rude to waitresses, they're not someone to stay with. I hope this woman thinks that way, rather than "he did what I asked" or "he's not backing down."
Today, someone else answered the door, after I leaned on the bell repeatedly. She did not look happy, but the music was turned down. A couple of minutes later, the man came upstairs and rang my bell. He complained about my complaining--his basic point apparently is that it's acceptable to play extremely loud music on a holiday afternoon--and said we sometimes "thump around" after 11 and they never complain. (Of course, if they never complain, how am I to know there's a problem?) He also asserted that nobody else has complained, which as
cattitude pointed out may be because nobody else is right above them, and accused me of having said I was speaking for the entire building. I told him I had never done so, and unfortunately did not think in time to say "that must have been someone else."And then he went downstairs and turned the stereo back up. I had a headache before this started (colds will do that), but suspect that he is legally in the right in that the noise in here doesn't reach levels relevant to a legal complaint, and there's no law saying "don't be a schmuck." Also,
adrian_turtle has noted that we don't actually want to get into a "who can be more obnoxious" contest. But I am not happy, and I am certainly not about to make efforts to be quieter for someone who didn't think "please don't stomp around at night, we're trying to sleep" was worth asking for itself and who is playing music to make a point of "So there!"Addendum: it has stopped. I mentioned my hypothesis that the guy downstairs was trying to impress his female friend/companion/visitor, and Adrian said that the woman was likely to be smarter than for that to work. She mentioned the standard advice that if someone you're dating is nice to you but rude to waitresses, they're not someone to stay with. I hope this woman thinks that way, rather than "he did what I asked" or "he's not backing down."
