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Yesterday, we got a call from Andy Porter, who was looking for ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
roadnotes's phone number to pass on medical bad news about her cousin Elliot. (cattitude actually answered the phone and spoke to him throughout.) Out of a sudden feeling of caution, I told Cattitude "Get his number, and I'll call Roadnotes and let her know he wants to talk to her." This confirmed what Cattitude had already been thinking about not giving him that information. I gather from what I overheard that Porter did not take this well, and actually got to the point of accusing Cattitude of paranoia for not wanting to give him someone's phone number, but he did reveal his own. The phone call ended quickly and with harsh words.
A moment later the phone rang again. It was a second call from Porter, with a question that is notable for both stupidity and intrusiveness, namely, "Why didredbird have her gall bladder removed?" Cattitude gave him one angry sentence, then hung up the phone again.
I then took the phone and tried to call Roadnotes, dialing from memory. "The number you have reached, 718-xxx-yyzz, is not in service…" Without thinking, I had entered the number from when she was living withvolund. So if I had done the automatic thing, or given in to pressure, Porter would have assumed I was trying to blow him off. I then pulled up an address/phone number list, called her, and passed along such news as I'd been given, and the phone number. I also learned that I had been right about her not wanting him to have her phone number.
It's not paranoia to know that not everyone wants their phone number to be available to the whole world. Someone who is a long-time friend of L (whose name I am eliding here for her comfort), a woman who is careful about access to her own contact information, should be aware of that. That the accusation of paranoia came that fast suggests that it's his ready-to-hand way of pressuring people for information, which in turn suggests that he's run into this before and overrun boundaries, or tried to.
roadnotes's phone number to pass on medical bad news about her cousin Elliot. (cattitude actually answered the phone and spoke to him throughout.) Out of a sudden feeling of caution, I told Cattitude "Get his number, and I'll call Roadnotes and let her know he wants to talk to her." This confirmed what Cattitude had already been thinking about not giving him that information. I gather from what I overheard that Porter did not take this well, and actually got to the point of accusing Cattitude of paranoia for not wanting to give him someone's phone number, but he did reveal his own. The phone call ended quickly and with harsh words.A moment later the phone rang again. It was a second call from Porter, with a question that is notable for both stupidity and intrusiveness, namely, "Why did
redbird have her gall bladder removed?" Cattitude gave him one angry sentence, then hung up the phone again.I then took the phone and tried to call Roadnotes, dialing from memory. "The number you have reached, 718-xxx-yyzz, is not in service…" Without thinking, I had entered the number from when she was living with
volund. So if I had done the automatic thing, or given in to pressure, Porter would have assumed I was trying to blow him off. I then pulled up an address/phone number list, called her, and passed along such news as I'd been given, and the phone number. I also learned that I had been right about her not wanting him to have her phone number.It's not paranoia to know that not everyone wants their phone number to be available to the whole world. Someone who is a long-time friend of L (whose name I am eliding here for her comfort), a woman who is careful about access to her own contact information, should be aware of that. That the accusation of paranoia came that fast suggests that it's his ready-to-hand way of pressuring people for information, which in turn suggests that he's run into this before and overrun boundaries, or tried to.
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