Notebook time

[redbird]

I posted this to alt.poly yesterday, in the course of a long thread, and two different people said they like the phrasing, so I'm putting it here for future reference (mine):

To the extent that there are politics entangled in my polyness and my bisexuality, they're about people being able to live, openly, in the ways that work for them/us, with the partners we choose, whether none, one, or more than one, and of any gender. That's an aim, not a tool to create some changed world.

Comments

[supergee.livejournal.com]

Now at least three different people like the phrasing. Wonderful.

[purplecthulhu.livejournal.com]

Well said!

So I guess that makes at least four...

[ckd]

That is a wonderfully phrased summation.

[lysana.livejournal.com]

My sentiments exactly, and well-phrased.

[pyrzqxgl.livejournal.com]

I definitely appreciated it when I was reading alt.polyamory last night.

[elusis.livejournal.com]

I wish you'd write a book on how to be poly without being an asshole about it.

[redbird]

I'm flattered, but who would buy it? (Both "what publisher" and "what readers".)

As far as I can tell, my method is a combination of having found (some of) the right people for me and being patient with them and with myself.

[firecat]

A lot of readers would buy such a book; I'm not sure what publisher though.

[liv]

Good point. There's a huge market for self-help books, but not much of a market for the ones that are actually needed, telling people not to be assholes and to apply common sense and basic decency.

In my completely inexpert opinion, people would buy and read such a book. Because there are a lot of people who discover polyamory as this amazing concept, and are frustrated by the lack of information and models and just general cultural presence for relationship approaches other than marriage-like het monogamy. And a lot of the people who are drawn to polyamory seem to be into relationship geeking. The market consisting of people who have read and rejected The Ethical Slut would appear to be a decent size. But convincing publishers of this would be much harder, and I suspect my particular social group is giving me a biased sample!

I can think of a few reasons why you'd do a good job of writing such a book, but not many other reasons why you should. I'll happily add my wishing power to elusis', but I do at least get to read your journal where you often make sensible and well-worded comments about relationship matters.