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[redbird]

It's hard for me to entirely get past the belief that I can fix my friends' problems, if I could only think of the right answer--even when I know better, because the problem is outside my scope (e.g., most medical things) or not something that one person can solve.

This despite knowing that I can't fix all of my own problems, nor can my friends fix them for me: there's a part of me that believes that not only can I offer a cup of tea and an ear, but that those will be enough.

I suppose the positive side of this is that I'm feeling enough better, physically, to have more energy to think about things other than my lungs.

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[crazysoph.livejournal.com]

Sometimes, and as I'm getting more acquainted with my own personal agendas (agendae??), I even prefer the quiet listener serving up serial cups of tea. It's taken years, but we finally have dear_hubby not rushing in to "fix" or offer solutions, when all I needed was to vent and analyse a problem.

But the other side of the coin, knowing not to keep fixing, remaining with the ear and the receptive-yet-wise (as much so as one owns) attitude... sometimes, that's the toughest job! Good for you on the realization that it can be enough.

Crazy(and often not wise)Soph

PS more healing vibes for the lungs...