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([personal profile] redbird Mar. 30th, 2005 12:24 pm)
"I don't want to discuss this topic now" does not mean "Go away, I don't want to talk to you."
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From: [identity profile] akirlu.livejournal.com


Well, it might if you speak Minnesotan, or one of the other more tender, nuance-inflected dialects of American. I prefer blunt explicitness myself, but when dealing with a lover originally from Wisconsin, this will get me accused of being "mean". I never stop croggling at the breadth of possible communication styles, and how desperately badly they can mesh, even with the best of intentions on all sides. Especially if one or more parties doesn't recognize that a difference in style, rather than the presence of positive malice, is the problem. So yes, I agree with you, but I can imagine lots of people who wouldn't believe it unless they were told.
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