Random holiday card note

[redbird]

Several people on my friends list have posted in their journals about card exchanges and such.

I don't send winter holiday cards (solstice, new year's, christmas, hanukkah, newtonmas, saturnalia, kwanzaa, et cetera), or for that matter non-winter holiday cards. This isn't for any deep reason beyond that I realized after a while that I wasn't doing it, and wasn't into the activity, and nothing horrible would happen if I didn't. I do send birthday cards--though not as reliably as I would like--and some random other cards, but not holiday cards, not even to the people I love most.

Realistically, I therefore don't expect to receive holiday cards. I don't object to them (as long as they don't hurt my brain), and am often pleased to receive them, as long as the sender doesn't expect reciprocation. If we're friends and you like sending cards, that's cool, but if you'd mind not getting one from me in return, it'd be better not to add me to your list.

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[ailbhe]

Yes, and he agrees that I shouldn't feel I have to do it, but the gentle nagging I receive when I don't is more trouble than sending the cards. But he's not organised enough to send cards.

So I get the cards, and we both sit down and write them, and I address the envelope because my handwriting is legible.

I fight many battles with his family's gender expectations. I'm letting this one go.

A.
(They also believe on a gut-level that the housework is my responsibility, even when we're both working. I have no idea how he ended up so well-adjusted.)