This made me think about a certain large mailing list I am on (and help manage). The ground rules don't actually forbid being "rude" because that is a very subjective term. Instead, they proscribe certain activities that people often do when they are being rude, such as name-calling, insults, personal attacks, threats, harassment. That is much easier to verify objectively.
"Nice" may be in the eye of the beholder as well, but I still try to be nice. I usually hold the door (whether it's a man or a woman) and yield to other drivers, get right when someone wants to pass me, etc. In general, I behave like I would like others to behave, even if I don't know them and will never see them again; I'm not doing it for them, really, I'm doing it because momma raised me right!
That said, I can also be "rude" when I feel it is necessary. Usually if I'm being "not nice" it's because I believe in calling things as I see them, but there are other reasons.
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Date: 2003-09-09 10:20 pm (UTC)"Nice" may be in the eye of the beholder as well, but I still try to be nice. I usually hold the door (whether it's a man or a woman) and yield to other drivers, get right when someone wants to pass me, etc. In general, I behave like I would like others to behave, even if I don't know them and will never see them again; I'm not doing it for them, really, I'm doing it because momma raised me right!
That said, I can also be "rude" when I feel it is necessary. Usually if I'm being "not nice" it's because I believe in calling things as I see them, but there are other reasons.