![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
I've gotten into a discussion on alt.polyamory in which it's becoming clear that, while the first poster and I probably have different ideas about romantic/sexual relationships, we definitely have very different ideas about what friendship is. Either that, or we're going to turn out to mean similar things by "friend" and different things by "fun" and "commitment." Not all my friends are chosen family, but some definitely are; he seems to draw much sharper lines between friends and partners than I do.
In the last week, I've been told "you two are so cute" by two different people, who were referring to different values of "you two." The second was a neighbor, referring to me and![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
cattitude; she also said we make it look easy. I don't especially seek cuteness, but it seems to be how other people are seeing affection and a feeling of security.
Two of my friends (not at the chosen-family or committed level, but people I like, and both of whom who are on my friends list here) have recently broken up, and I'm seeing it from both their perspectives. This leaves me sympathetic toward both of them, and disinclined to comment to either. It's not a fear of breaking confidences; I just really don't know what to say beyond "I hope things get better for you soon."
In the last week, I've been told "you two are so cute" by two different people, who were referring to different values of "you two." The second was a neighbor, referring to me and
cattitude; she also said we make it look easy. I don't especially seek cuteness, but it seems to be how other people are seeing affection and a feeling of security.Two of my friends (not at the chosen-family or committed level, but people I like, and both of whom who are on my friends list here) have recently broken up, and I'm seeing it from both their perspectives. This leaves me sympathetic toward both of them, and disinclined to comment to either. It's not a fear of breaking confidences; I just really don't know what to say beyond "I hope things get better for you soon."