redbird | getting grumpy about usage (Reply)

(This is from the same discussion

roadnotes alluded to this morning.) Someone on the

polyamory community was objecting because people were using the word in what zie thinks is the "wrong" way, or because people are seeking sex and love to make them feel better about themselves and life. Ohh-kay. But then they started talking about being "more evolved". This led, some comments later, to my posting the following:

On evolution: The course of evolution, as I understand it, has run from the simpler to the more complex in structure. Only because there's no meaningful way to get less complex than no structure at all. And even then, do we know when viruses evolved? (They're simpler than any other life--if you call them "life" at all.) Evolution finds and fills niches. Sometimes that means birds learning not to fly, or a complex lung turning into a swim bladder.

And it still has nothing to do with learning to handle relationships in a more mature fashion.

"Evolution" is a much better defined term than polyamory--which means I get annoyed at people who abuse it, especially when those people are trying to build other definitions on it, or attacking other people for using "polyamory" differently than the speaker does.

the net result of this misuse is I hear from idiots in IMs all the time who think I want to hop into bed with them because since my profile says I'm interested in poly, I must be a slut (negative connotation) or a swinger. I. Don't. Think. So.

Any mention of anything related to sex seems to get that result in IM, from what I've heard. I have *no* profile on ICQ and I get random messages from strangers, some of them clearly pushing porn pages and some possible wannafucks. That's not about poly any more than the guy who tried to pick me up at the gym is about tattoos.

And yes, "unicorn" means one-horned. A rhino is not a unicorn. A rock band consisting of two guitarists, a bass player, a drummer, and a saxophonist is not a unicorn.