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Redbird ([personal profile] redbird) wrote2004-11-18 11:47 am

Memo to self

For further contemplation:

I may have unrealistic expectations for myself, as far as being an easy person to be around.

[identity profile] red-queen.livejournal.com 2004-11-18 09:27 am (UTC)(link)
Haven't caught up on the past day's posts yet, but just for the record: I've always found you an easy person to be around. It helps that we respect each other, like each other, and have similar values. I can see folks who have trouble "reading" you finding you less easy to be around, but that's an affinity issue or bad fit, not YOU.

[identity profile] yonmei.livejournal.com 2004-11-18 10:47 am (UTC)(link)
I found you a perfectly easy person to be around.

[identity profile] rdkeir.livejournal.com 2004-11-18 03:27 pm (UTC)(link)
You are not "easy to be around" in the sense that, whether I am responding in your journal or talking to you in person, I find myself needing to be more decent and thoughtful than I might otherwise. It's sometimes easier to be in the presence of a total jerk, as that grants implicit permission to be a total jerk right back at them. Nearly any discussion of politics provides ample evidence of this.

I'm afraid your friends will just have to learn to tolerate your decency.