I don't mean to say I think it was inappropriate. I just think that it's easy to forget when you're around people who are used to various relationship types and lifestyles all the time that the majority of everyday folk are pretty darned shocked at even good old fashioned gay or bi relationships, let alone someone who is bi with multiple partners.

This sort of thing is a HUGE DEAL to someone who hasn't been exposed to it. I guess I'm just saying not to give up on her just yet, even if her reaction is less than what you hoped. A phone call is more personal, and would reassure her that you are indeed the same person.

Good luck with whatever you choose. Friendships are precious things, and it's always nice to rekindle a meaningful one.