I think you're right in that you shouldn't have to keep your loves a secret, but I think maybe an email might not have been the best way to do that. The lifestyle isn't the most common one, and to many people who aren't locked down in the diverse world otherwise known as the blogosphere , it's really shocking. Most people I know in real life have never even heard of the word 'poly'.

I say give it time, and perhaps give her a phone call if you can. I think it was likely too much, too soon.

(Sorry for the double post. Am tired. Bad typos.)