QOTD

[redbird]

Please take it as a given, if I have not given full details of a situation, a person's identity, or whatever else I happen to be writing about, that I have my reasons for not doing so. What I choose to divulge is up to me, not my readers. It is rude and intrusive for readers to demand further details, whether they do so publicly in a comment or privately in an e-mail. So please don't. If it were any of your business, I'd tell you. — misia

Comments

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

What I find interesting is what the quote says about the reader population.

There are times when I am deliberately obscure about a posting. Most of the time people respect my reasons for obscurity, but sometimes people are curious. Invariably they've had sufficient social clue to ask in such a way as not to offend. Sometimes they get an answer, sometimes they don't.

But I've never had someone "demand further details".

(No insult or disparagement intended; I'm merely observing the difference in my reader population.)

[redbird]

misia seems to have a lot of people she doesn't know at all reading her journal (not that I've actually met her, but it feels different--we know people in common, and I've done a bit of editorial stuff for her), which seems to be connected to her past writings on sex and her work-in-progress, a history of virginity.

I've yet to have anyone demand further details about me, though I have had requests from strangers for technical support, and one person who left an inelegant and obscenity-laden attack on a third party in the comment field on an unrelated post.

[r-ness.livejournal.com]

Yah, it's a commonplace to observe it, but people are weird about sex.

[wild-patience.livejournal.com]

Ah, I'm one of Misia's readers who doesn't know her and isn't interested in the sex writing but just find her writing style in general interesting. And she's prolific and some of her studies touch on things of interest to me although her angle of approach is generally very different from mine.

I think in general, people are nosy and don't always realize when they're stepping over bounds. People have "lives" (as in "get a life") to differing degrees and some people's just sound so much more interesting when they're writing about theirs then others living their own.