More thoughts on National Coming Out Day

[redbird]

Being out here is fairly easy.

Most of you already know me, and you're self-selected: you like me or think I'm interesting, and if you're on my friends list, I like you, find you interesting, or both.

That doesn't mean I'm prepared to tell the people at work that I'm bi and poly. Granted, it's a very heteronormative environment, and I have no job security whatsoever. But the converse of the latter is that I have little to lose, and as for the former, someone would have to go first. It might be easier if I had a present-tense girlfriend to be out about; talking about having spent the weekend with so-and-so is more natural, at least in that context, than coming out as bi to people who know only that I've been involved with cattitude for a very (pleasantly) long time.

Comments

[wild-patience.livejournal.com]

There's no need for the people at work to know that about you, especially if you don't feel like sharing it with them. I don't tell people at work that I'm straight and monogamous -- it really doesn't affect my job so why would they care?

[redbird]

The difference is that you don't need to tell them: it's the default assumption even if you were single. And I assume you're not concealing calimac or calling him your "housemate" if he happens to come up in conversation as the person you did something with, or whose turn it is to stay home and wait for a plumber.

[wild-patience.livejournal.com]

This is very true, what you say. Even if we were a non-traditional couple, it's much easier where we are, we're in such a liberal area.