Same-sex marriage in New York

[redbird]

The state legislature has passed a same-sex marriage bill, the governor has signed it, and it goes into effect in 30 days. For everyone who is saying this will "destroy" marriage, I have no problem with our divorce rates reaching the shocking levels currently seen in the Commonwealth of Massachusetts.

If this was a threat to mixed-sex marriages, I'd have divorced cattitude and run off to Massachusetts years ago. Of course, our relationship isn't really what the people who talk about "traditional" marriage believe in either, even if their speeches suggest that gender difference is both necessary and sufficient for their idea of a good relationship.

Also, a shout-out to Republican State Senator McDonald, who announced his support for the bill by saying he was going to do the right thing, and "They can take this job and shove it."

Comments

[adrian_turtle]

I'm so glad your legislature had a moment of good sense (or perhaps a moment of ethical behavior--it's hard to tell from the outside.) This continues the long tradition of destroying traditional marriage that started before I was born, and I'm grateful for it.* The egalitarian arrangement you have with Cattitude is better than traditional marriage, in large part because you decided for yourselves how you wanted it to work instead of following the prescribed scripts for what "husband" and "wife" are supposed to do.

In the NYT sidebar, there's a link to an editorial column titled "Same-Sex Marriage Is a Mixed Blessing." The author frets that same-sex marriage will mean the loss of domestic partnership as a legal option, when some people like being domestic partners. It's a bad thing when het couples have to get married so one can get health insurance through the other's employer...same-sex couples can get the same benefit by just registering as domestic partners, so why should they be forced to marry if they don't want to? She doesn't seem to realize how much of the problem comes from the health insurance business. I don't need to get married for health insurance benefits--not because Massachusetts still has registered domestic partnerships, but because it has
https://www.mahealthconnector.org/portal/site/connector/


*Fifteen years ago, I asked the government of New York State for a no-fault divorce from a man who was making me profoundly unhappy in ways I did not think of as abuse and did not want to talk about. Unlike a woman in her late twenties who had been in a traditional marriage for 5 years, I had an advanced education and no children.

[rubynye.livejournal.com]

Oh yes, marriage is so destroyed in Massachusetts. *starts laughing* I was going to continue being sarcastic but I'm too happy to manage it amusingly. This is wonderful news!

[amaebi.livejournal.com]

We humans are all dangerous. :)

[cakmpls.livejournal.com]

I've been monogamously heterosexually married for nearly 31 years, and J and I are still waiting to see how our marriage is going to be damaged, as same-sex marriage becomes legal in more and more places. Waiting...waiting...waiting...