I guess the point I'm trying to make is that we HAVE to judge who we associate with by how they behave; there will always be interpersonal conflict. But there are differences (race, creed, sexual orientation, relationship orientation, etc) that really shouldn't matter, not nearly as much as basic values and philosophies.

(Because let's face it: it's not like I'm ever going to be able to get along with a person who shoots birds for the hell of it, for example.)