I find myself inclined to agree with cimadness on the role models thing, even with your explanation. As far as I do have role models, they are people who do the things I want to do. If I try to add the qualifier of 'people like me who do the things I want to do', then I get tangled up in definitions of who counts as 'like me'. When I was kid I wanted to be Francis Crick, I didn't want to be Rosalind Franklin.

If anyone had ever had the chutzpah to say to me 'But girls can't do X' I would have replied, 'Well, I'm going to be the first woman to do it'. I suppose I might have needed a meta role model of someone being the first woman to do something traditionally masculine. But that's fairly abstract!