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Redbird ([personal profile] redbird) wrote2005-01-09 09:08 am

Goodbye

I don't know whether it hurts less for being expected. Maybe that the hurt was spread out over time.

Goodbye, Anna. http://www3.caringbridge.org/wa/annav/index.htm

[identity profile] rivka.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 06:26 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry for your loss.

[identity profile] yonmei.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 06:51 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry.

[identity profile] elynne.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 07:43 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry. Be well, take care.

[identity profile] daystreet.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 08:02 am (UTC)(link)
My sincerest sympathies to her family and to you, and to all her many friends.

[identity profile] suecochran.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 08:10 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. What was your relationship with Anna? I don't recall your mentioning her before, but I haven't been on LJ all that long so I may have missed some entries about her before now. May she rest in peace.
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[identity profile] gerisullivan.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 08:26 am (UTC)(link)
The grief is different. All grief is different, I think. There's relief that it's over mixed in, given the inevitable outcome Anna, her friends, and family have been dealing with for the last few weeks and months. Gladness that so many loved ones has the opportunity to express their appreciation and say goodbye, either in person or by writing. Gladness that our community was there for her, cared for her, that she didn't die alone. And so much more.

Still wishing there'd been no cancer, of course. Or that it had responded to treatment with a full recovery for Anna. Or. Or. Or. But mixed in is thankfulness and pride for how so many people handled the reality that was, starting with Anna herself and extending so very far outward from there.

[identity profile] supergee.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 08:28 am (UTC)(link)
I never had the pleasure of knowing Anna. She was a name just outside the fannish circles I frequented. You and others I care about are grieving for her; may you be comforted.

[identity profile] wouldyoueva.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 08:33 am (UTC)(link)
Well, one always wishes for some miracle, one last minute reprive.

[identity profile] dejaspirit.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 08:55 am (UTC)(link)
I would hear about her from time to time and I hope it's a comfort that she seemed to be loved by so many.

[identity profile] filkerdave.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 09:51 am (UTC)(link)
*hug*
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Re: Goodbye

[identity profile] pir-anha.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 10:03 am (UTC)(link)
i am sorry for your loss. :/

for me it hurts more, because there's more time for it to remind me about every little thing. sudden death is such a shock that part of the hurt is subsumed by numbness, i think.

but it's never easy. i do not like getting older because more and more people i care about die.

[identity profile] mactavish.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 10:05 am (UTC)(link)
:(

[identity profile] elisem.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 12:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Hugs enclosed. And good wishes for everybody connected.

[identity profile] mittelbar.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 12:21 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear this.

[identity profile] webbob.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 01:15 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know if it would hurt more or less for being expected. I wish that I had known sooner, but that's about closure and guilt, not about hurting more or less.

Anna touched a lot of out lives, always in a good way, so far as I know: nobody will know whether they would have felt better or worse if they'd known more, earlier, as the news continues to spread. We all know and otherws will know soon that she leaves a gap in our lives that noone else can fill.

[identity profile] wordweaverlynn.livejournal.com 2005-01-09 04:51 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss.