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"it's a tradition"
I got a party invitation a couple of days ago.
Nothing unusual in that--people have parties, sometimes they invite me.
What's unusual is that this one includes the statement "I really don't feel like a party right now, but after 22 years, people would show up anyway and if we called everyone to cancel, there would still be a crowd, but made up mostly of people we don't know, so we're having the party anyway. But don't expect Ken to be in a party mood."
I haven't decided whether to go--they don't ask for RSVPs. It'll depend in part on the weather: if it's too hot, I can't do this, a small apartment and lots of people, with the roof as the only relief. But, beyond that, I only know Ken and Mercy casually, and I'm not sure whether it would be kinder to show up and commiserate with the reasons Ken doesn't feel in a party mood, and let them see another familiar face, or to not show up and thus not make Ken deal with one more person when he's not in a party mood.
I hope never to wind up in the position they're in: feeling forced to entertain because there's no way to get the word out that they don't want to.
Nothing unusual in that--people have parties, sometimes they invite me.
What's unusual is that this one includes the statement "I really don't feel like a party right now, but after 22 years, people would show up anyway and if we called everyone to cancel, there would still be a crowd, but made up mostly of people we don't know, so we're having the party anyway. But don't expect Ken to be in a party mood."
I haven't decided whether to go--they don't ask for RSVPs. It'll depend in part on the weather: if it's too hot, I can't do this, a small apartment and lots of people, with the roof as the only relief. But, beyond that, I only know Ken and Mercy casually, and I'm not sure whether it would be kinder to show up and commiserate with the reasons Ken doesn't feel in a party mood, and let them see another familiar face, or to not show up and thus not make Ken deal with one more person when he's not in a party mood.
I hope never to wind up in the position they're in: feeling forced to entertain because there's no way to get the word out that they don't want to.